I am Human.

I am not perfect. I am broken. I have flaws. I have strengths. I have demons. I have angels. I have regrets. I have aspirations. It’s not about becoming un-broken, but filling in the cracks with light. Striving to become better. Not better than others, but better than the person you were yesterday. We are all human, we all struggle, we all have the potential to become something great. All it takes is a little faith in yourself. Don’t sit idly by while the world passes you by. Get out there, struggle, love, grow.

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Quit Escaping! Your Well Being Depends On It.

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Escape Behavior – A response that is designed to move away from aversive stimulus by withdrawal or entering a fantasy world.

Life can be a bitch, it’s no secret. We all have experienced the deep urge to escape at some point. Some more than others.. In this day and age, escape can be found around every corner. Social media, internet surfing, porn, video games, Netflix binging, etc. These are all ways in which we can escape our reality temporarily to avoid the discomfort life can bring. What many may not realize though is how damaging this can be to our overall well being. It may feel great to escape at first, but once you come back, you’re right where you left off. The more you escape, the more shit in your life gets built up, the more stressed out you get, the more you feel the need to escape.

The worst part about all this is sometimes you don’t even realize that’s what you’re doing. Maybe you complete one task, then your inner voice justifies watching three hours or your favorite TV show. Or maybe you’ll be at work, and the next thing you know you’ve been scrolling through Facebook for the last two hours because you’re avoiding the work that’s built up. Our minds are masters at tricking us into comfort and seeking external stimulus to get our fix of dopamine (feel good chemical in the brain). That’s why it can be so difficult to do the things that bring discomfort. Physical and mental. If you can relate to any of this, I suggest you become more aware of your actions and escape behaviors you partake in.

There is some good news however.. You can break the cycle! First step is to simply become aware of the escape behaviors you partake in. Second, identify what you are trying to escape from. Once you have identified the root cause of what’s making you flee reality, work on correcting it. By limiting  or eliminating your escape behaviors, you will learn to cope with the uncomfortableness of reality. Thus, making you better geared towards dealing with adversity. Work through the discomfort instead of escaping it. The more you do this, the more well equipped you’ll be to deal with whatever life throws your way.

 

 

 

Love is an action.

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Artwork: As Long As You’re Still Breathing – Jeffrey Smith

Love is an action. I once thought it was something that would just come to me, without putting in any effort. I am now seeing love in a new light. Love is something you give. The funny thing is, the more you give, the more you receive. If you’re feeling like any of your relationships are beginning to wane, try giving some love without expecting any in return. The more love I seem to give, the more love I seem to get, and the higher my capacity for receiving love seems to become.

Comfort in Uncertainty

I am in a place I have never been before in my life. The more I move forward, the more my life is in a constant state of change. It’s scary and mostly confusing. I experience down times of frustration and uncertainty, then I experience highs times of motivation and momentum. I’m really starting to come to terms with the constant change and becoming more familiar with that feeling of uncertainty. In order to grow, we must push the envelope from time to time and feel the discomfort. As Alexis Carrel once said, “Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.”

When you’re on the path of self-mastery, or just trying to improve your life, it can be easy to get caught up in all the things you think you should be doing. Always looking forward and analyzing the things in your life that you need to change. Putting the focus on what our lives are lacking and developing a lacking mindset. We forget to put emphasis on the present moment and learn to enjoy the only thing that really exists, right now. Life is abundant. Life isn’t just about attaining material wealth and accomplishing goals. It’s about living. Learn how to enjoy your life and to share it with others gracefully. Forgive and recognize no one really knows how to live a perfect life. No one knows all the answers.

When attempting to navigate through our lives, we tend to think we can attain a certain outcome in our own life that by mimicking others. Although it is great to learn from others and apply knowledge that has been accumulated over time, I also believe it’s important to remember that every person is equally vast and complex. What others have done/do to get where they are, won’t work for everyone. We need to recognize the importance of the individual experience. The beauty in it. There are infinite variables that lead to our perceptions, values, ideas, opinions and ways of thinking. We are basically a smorgasbord. All equally as complex and capable of doing great things. It’s a matter finding what is in alignment with the person you have become and are becoming, then running with it.

The reality that we live in is incomprehensible to our tiny human minds, as amazing and vast as they may be. All we can do is interpret the world around us with our five very limited senses. Give yourself a fuckin break! It’s okay to not know the answers and to be confused. We will never fully know the mysteries of this ever expanding reality in which we have the privilege of being a part of. By recognizing the limitations in our understanding, we can forgive ourselves for not knowing all the answers, and in turn have a mind open enough to receive them.